Monday, May 12, 2014

Mother's Day

(composed while sleep deprived and drunk)

I had an AMAZING opportunity with my mother.
SHe was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer.
This is a death sentence.
They send you home to die.

Seriously.
The experimental treatments at PLUTONIUM, injecting into the tumors.
This is not a FUN cancer, where with radiation and chemo you might have a slight chance of recovery.
This is go home and die.

OR agree to be part of one of the FEW experimental, and not hopeful experiments.
Dont get me wrong, the experiments ARE AWESOME. They expand the range of human knowledge and are awesome.

BUT!!

But we had a 6th month notice.
WE had the LUXURY of knowing, that my mom had 6 months to live. period. (she made it almost 6 months to the day).

Given that notice, I did what I could.
Saturday dinners. EVERY saturday. Until SHE was unable to travel.
The first one was near and easy.
The next one was at a place, that unknown to me, she had ALWAYS wanted to eat at, (Bernham - Atwood Cage), which is quite awesome.

Dinner was every Saturday.
Not everyone could make it. Not to every dinner, not to every location. But it was out of the house, until she couldn't travel anymore.

But it was FANTASTIC.
Unbelievable.
Different people. DIfferent places. Different times.
Sharing her life, and her friends and family.

We did it as long as she could travel.
I think she enjoyed it. I know that she said that she did.
I KNOW that others did.
I KNOW that pictures were taken and stories were told.

It was a celebration of life.
IT was amazing.

SO
What have you done?
You mother is alive?
Why dont you see here every day, week or month?
EVERY WEEK.
EVERY MONTH.

IF you do this, there is ZERO chance of regret when she dies.
ZERO ...

I can speak from experience.
As one of the accidental lucky few.
I had 6 months notice. I spent as much time as "I" could. I helped others where I could.


You have TODAY.
If it is the last day that you will ever see your mother, ....




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