Perfection
This essay is one of your best, in line with "Being Poor" and "The Child on the Train".
It nails why I was never able to reconcile with my mother, nor with a sister. Ever.
They never changed, let alone: acknowledged or apologized or atoned.

The BIGGER question: celebrities, Hitler, "depends on the crime", etc - How long must you atone?
The late, great Jullian May asked this in The Adversary. Marc Remillard was directly responsible for death of uncounted billions of lives, and spent 6 million years atoning for the wrongs that he did.
Was that enough?

Thank You again, for your amazing words.